Hello, friends! Amanda Squared here, dusting off the ole blog. We have been chatting off and on about the idea of relaunching this blog because we have missed it so much! Things have changed quite a bit since we were last here- for starters, there are two more babies between us! One of us began their mama journey and the other catapulted into “two under two” life. To say things are busy is an understatement, so this may seem like odd timing, but hey… that’s kind of our thing. (See this post.)
We are still very passionate about the idea of self-care and managing the every day stress and anxiety that we all experience, but now we are looking at everything through the lens of motherhood. It’s easy to get caught up in the demands that come with raising babies, so caught up in fact, that we lose ourselves. It can feel like the days are long; filled to the brim with diapers, feedings, sleep regressions and later, tantrums, whining, meltdowns. It’s easy to see how days become weeks become months and you realize that you don’t even remember the last time you did something for yourself. When was the last time you listened to your favorite radio station instead of a kid’s CD? When is the last time you took a bubble bath instead of getting one ready for your toddler? When is the last time you were up at night talking with a girlfriend instead of being up feeding your newborn?
This is not to say that we don’t appreciate the beauty and the gift that is motherhood. For every bad night of sleep, there are endless cuddles. For every tantrum, a sweet smile and an “I love you” pronounced more like “I love ooh”. There is the excitement of your baby trying food for the first time, their first word, their first step. It is not to say that anyone wants to trade the every day tasks of mothering for their “old life”. It is respecting that we are still people who need to maintain lives and interests outside of our children. Motherhood is a delicate balance between being someone else’s whole world and realizing that you are your own person, too. We love the quote,
“You were someone before you were their mom, and that person matters”.
That is the message that we are trying to embody here at Unpolished Motherhood. We are trying to walk the line of being a mama (while also being a wife, a sister, a daughter, a friend, a daughter-in-law, etc.) while still doing the things that make you feel like you. As women we hold all of these roles that tie us to other people and it’s easy to fall last on the list of priorities, but it doesn’t have to be this way. The journey is not ever going to be perfect, but perfection is not the goal.
We know the days are long, mama. We know the to do list never ends. We just hope that we can spark a joy in you to remember to put yourself on the list.
-Amanda + Amanda